Long Distance Relationships: Are they really worth it?

Being in a long distance relationship certainly has its ups and downs and you need to be in one with the right person. Someone who's as committed to the relationship as you are. I feel like I'm currently in one with someone who's not as committed. Don't get me wrong, he's an amazing person, good looking, smart, amazing in bed and I love spending time with him. We've been going out for almost 6 months now and of that 6 months we've spent maybe 3 weeks in the same country as each other.

This is the second time I've been in a long distance relationship, the first one lasted almost 2 years and was with one of my then best friends. He was really good at being in a long distance relationship I'd get two lengthly emails everyday, we'd talk on the phone most weekends and I got to see him every couple of months, the longest time we spend apart perhaps being 3 months. Now I know a rule of relationships is not to compare boyfriends with each other, but in my current situation it's hard not to.

The guy I'm going out with at the moment, he just doesn't, I don't really know how to put it into words but I feel like I'm more of a have to with him rather than a want to. Does that make sense? Like he feels he has to talk to me, has to tell me he loves me, rather than actually wanting to. I feel like I'm a burden to him, this sad little girl who constantly wants to talk to him. When we have conversations it's always me asking the questions, asking how his day was, what he's up to. If I don't make an effort then the conversation dies. Yet at the same time he promises me I'm the only girlfriend he wants and that he loves me. This coming from a guy who's had 14 (yes 14) other girlfriends and he's not even 18 yet. Though saying that I am the girlfriend who he's been in a relationship with the longest. Does that mean something? Is he a player? When I don't talk to him for a day, I miss him so much but I wake up to nothing, no email, no wallpost yet I email him everyday, telling him how my day was and saying how much I love and miss him. Am I being too clingy? I just thought this was what relationships were meant to be like, this is what my other long distance one was like. Should I stop comparing?

I want to be with him, but should it really hurt this much. Should I be crying myself to sleep every night? Should I tell him how I feel?

I have though. I've told him all this before and he's said he'd change. Did I see a change? No. He's starting university in September, in France. Next year I go to university in England. Is this a doomed relationship? Should I quit while I'm not so emotionally attached, but the fact that I'm crying while typing this means I already am. I love him so much but at the same time he breaks my heart. I don't deserve this, I'm a good girlfriend. I've got so much love to give, I just wish I had someone who appreciated it.